If your sex life doesn't include at least a little bit of
Sexting, then you must have been living under a rock since the '90s. While some people try to maintain that there are
some aspects of our human lives that have gone untouched by technology, nothing truely remains pure.
Yes, sex is still a very intimate thing that happens between two (or more) people. And yes, sexuality is something that is usually a huge part of someone's identity and experience as a person. But if you think sex and sexuality have gone uninfluenced by technological advancements, you are dead wrong. While sex and sexuality can be very primal and animalistic, like any primate, we use tools to get stuff done - and that includes sex.
New technologies are usually almost immediately adopted by both the sex and porn industry. Why? Because people love getting off and get bored easily, so they'll do anything to get off and to get off in a new and interesting way.
If you think about it, the internet - even during the days of dial-up connections - immediately became sexualized. Porn finally became available to the masses for free, and with the advent of email, salacious messages were popping up in every inbox. Sex is one of our primary needs as animals - if you have forgotten, humans are still animals - and we're always fucking horny.
But I digress, let's shift our attention away from the '90s and toward the present. Sex and dating apps - and sex apps disguised as dating apps - are EVERYWHERE. The app that is the subject of this article is the infamous Kik
On the surface, Kik seems innocent enough: a messaging app. But due to the anonymity afforded to users by the admins of the app, Kik has become a hotbed for drug dealing and sexting. Because you don't sign up for the app using Facebook, or any site of the like, or with a phone number Kik is one of the most anonymous messaging apps out there. This allows people to explore their sexual fantasies - or sell their drugs - with little fear of being found out by those closest to them - or in the case of drugs, the cops.
And if you want to start over, all you have to do is change your username and block the people you don't want to talk to anymore. Kik also doesn't store your messages, as they're all kept on your device (and are subsequently deleted after a while). This feature affords users a higher level of anonymity apps like GroupMe or WhatsApp don't - and a level of privacy that is completely unfamiliar to the folks over at Facebook.
Anyhow, Kik is a hotbed for sexting. If you search #kikme on Twitter, you'll find plenty of cleavage pictures, BDSM mistresses advertising their sexting services, and other horny folks just looking to get their sexting on. This just further proves what Kik is truly used for: sex, sexting, sexuality.
Thanks to this app you can find people to sext with that you don't know in person! You can find people to explore your fantasies with online all while remaining as anonymous as physically possible.
Kik has given a whole new meaning to the traditionally juvenile phrase: Ki(c)k me!
With that being said, here's the ultimate guide to using Kik for sexting. Read on to discover everything you need to know about Kiking others (in a sexy way)!
While sexting via text or on Snapchat usually only extends to people you know, Kik is basically built for anonymous sexting.
So it's normal to send messages to people you don't know! It's actually very widely accepted and almost encouraged.
Like I mentioned earlier, if you were to search #KikMe on Twitter, you're met with thousands of dirty result These are the people you should message. If you're new to this whole concept, you might feel uncomfortable adding a random girl from online, but it's normal with Kik! It's completely normal!
When you make your profile, make sure to use some suggestive words in your username so that when you reach out to message someone, they know you're not spam! They'll get the idea that you're probably looking for a dirty little chat!
If you can't find anyone on Twitter, head on over to a sexting forum or a site like Dirty Usernames or KikSexting! Anyone listed on these sites is definitely down to get down and dirty (at least verbally, some girls will be more than willing to send pictures).
You might need to cast your net wide in the beginning. Some people might not be on their phones or are slow to reply. Once you find someone who's in the mood to talk dirty with you, keep them on retainer. While messaging people who are total strangers to you might be fun in the beginning, keeping someone around who you know is into the same stuff as you is a good idea! It shouldn't ruin the anonymity for you (if you want something new every time, I suggest roleplaying). You'll have more luck with the same people than you will by messaging total strangers every time.
If you haven't already guessed, Kik is the type of site that attracts people with a wide variety of interests! So, if you're
looking for something other than vanilla you're definitely going to find that.
If you are a vanilla kind of guy, you'll also be able to find that too! Plenty of girls are looking to have those kinds of sexting experiences.
However, if you're looking to get freaky, you're definitely going to find people who are down to get dark. Because of how anonymous the site can be, people definitely look to explore some of their darker fantasies on Kik than on other sites.
If you're looking to find your inner Christian Grey, there are plenty of girls who are into being submissive on Kik. You're more likely to find a submissive girl on Kik who isn't going to charge for her conversation. I guess that's one of the perks of being dominant!
On the other hand, if you're looking to be the submissive one in the conversation, you'll also be able to find plenty of Kik mistresses online. Mistresses, however, are more likely to charge for their time. So be prepared to embrace your inner pay pig if you're looking to talk to a Dominant woman.
There are plenty of people on this site who don't necessarily want to partake in the BDSM dynamic (though that is one of the most popular fetishes). You will also be able to find people who are into very niche kinks on this site. So if you're into something more taboo, you'll probably find at least a few people who are into what you're into!
Long story short, if you need a very particular itch scratched you can probably find someone to scratch that itch on Kik.
When you first contact someone on Kik, it's best to send a good opening message. And by an opening message, I don't mean
an opening sext.
You're going to want to make sure that person is into the idea of sexting before you come at them with your proverbial (or literal) dick out.
For the love of god, start with something tame like "hi" or "hey sexy" and don't automatically send a picture of your genitals. That's not cute.
Start with a flirty greeting, ask how they're doing, and see what they're up to. If they start flirting back, then you can ask if they're down to get nasty with you.
If you're messaging someone who charges for their sexting services, send a polite message and start a discussion about payment! Be polite and - somewhat - vanilla, until money is exchanged and you're free to be wild!
And don't ask for a sexting "sample." If this girl is bold enough to charge to have a conversation with her, it's more than likely that she knows what she's doing.
If you're still skeptical then pay attention to how she converses with you before money is exchanged. Is her use of texting lingo or slang too difficult to understand? Does she spell words right? Do her messages make sense?
If you still don't feel you can trust them, ask to use a service like PayPal for payment. That way if she disappears on you, you might get your money back!
Catfish are everywhere! So if you want to make sure you're talking to the person you think you're talking to, ask for
pictures. Ask for pictures of her holding up a specific number of fingers or a sign with a specific word on it.
Even then, there are ways for people to get around doing that, so be careful.
If the person is a good sexter, maybe just don't ask what they look like as to not ruin the illusion.
Just remember that there is always a chance you're getting Catfished!
One of the things that plagues the Kik messaging world are people who don't message back! So you should definitely make sure
you're not only responding, but responding in a reasonable amount of time.
If you're busy multitasking, make sure you let your sexting partner know that. Otherwise, that sucks for them to be left hanging with their hand down their pants and nothing to light their fire.
And if you're paying someone to sext, make sure you're messaging back! They aren't going to extend your time because you were busy playing Fortnight!
If you're sexting, you should e invested in the conversation. If you're not then politely excuse yourself from the conversation,
but don't leave them hanging.
But what I really mean by being invested is not responding with bullshit responses like "Haha and then what?" "Wow. Hot. What else?" You should make sure that you are responding with something equally as stimulating as what your partner sent you in the first place! So make sure that you're giving just as much effort as they're giving you.
This is a conversation, not a book. If you want to get off via words without being obligated to respond, look up some erotica and leave the sexting to those willing to respond!
Sexting shouldn't be limited to words alone! Kik, like most other messaging apps, allows for text and media to be sent. So
send media! Send pictures (after getting permission for your partner that that's okay) of what you're doing to yourself
or you getting all breathy into the microphone while talking dirt.
If you don't feel comfortable sending images of yourself, you should send links to good porn along with messages like "I'm thinking of doing this to you." Screen grabs of porn pics and other sexy things are also great things to send to your Kik-sexting-buddy!
The reason a lot of people use Kik is that they don't feel comfortable sexting about taboo or practicing certain fetishes
in their own sex life. Or they don't want their sexual behavior to be connected back to them, so the last thing you should
do is jeopardize the privacy already afforded to you as a user from Kik.
If you're going to send pictures, don't send images of your face. If you have any easily identifiable features, leave those out of pictures too!
The same thing goes with the background of your images. The last thing you want to do is identify yourself by taking a shot that clearly displays your house in the background. Take photos against nondescript walls, sheets, or floors.
Just be careful. I know it's hard to make good decisions when all your brain blood is … elsewhere … but try to use common sense when sexting strangers from the internet.
People let slip personal information when they're having normal discussions or during pillow talk. As much as you might want
to trust whoever's on the other side of the Kik screen, you need to make sure you're careful.
If you have a high profile job - or a job you just want to keep - don't give details about what you do for work or where your office is located. Lie about where you live! GOD, don't tell people where you live! The last thing you want is a stalker!
While Kik is one of the most anonymous apps you could hope to use, they still have access to your information. If you're
doing anything illegal (like messaging a minor or selling drugs), if asked Kik can give over your information (like your
IP address) to the cops.
So don't do anything illegal!