So you've downloaded Tinder, selected your most flattering photos, and you're ready to find girls to sext tonight.
Tinder is full of smoking hot women who use the relative anonymity of Tinder to act way raunchier than they would in person.
Sexting is a great way to bring out their wild side and have the best cybersex of your life.
But maybe you've never sexted on Tinder before, or maybe you're not sure you've got what it takes to pull it off.
The good news is that sexting isn't an innate skill; you can learn to be better at it. And we've got your crash course right here.
Check out these tried-and-true hacks to get the sexting adventure of your dreams on Tinder tonight.
This one might seem obvious, but it's more complex than you might think.
After all, sexting includes a lot of different behaviors, from just explicit text messages to photos and videos.
And people sext for all kinds of different reasons, too. For some, sexting is the goal in and of itself. Others see sexting as a form of flirting or foreplay, and still others use it as a way to keep the party going after you've both gone home.
None of these activities or goals are right or wrong. You just need to decide what you're looking for when you sit down, open Tinder, and get to sexting.
Are you looking to exchange texts only, or are you hoping for pictures as well? If you want pictures, know that a lot of people see photos as a quid pro quo: you won't get something for nothing. Are you willing to send photos, too?
If you're hoping to move the sexting out of the digital world and meet up with your chat partner for some in-person fun, know what you're asking for: a one-night stand, an FWB situation, or a serious relationship?
Knowing exactly what you want will also help you with your real-life sex: you can describe what you want to do and get the other person's reaction over text. It's a dry run to figure out if your tastes match up.
These days, everyone and their mom is on Tinder. You've got people looking for everything from casual sex to real relationships to this couple who's using Tinder to evangelize.
If you blast out sexy messages to everyone you match with, you're going to waste a lot of time throwing spaghetti at a wall waiting for something to stick.
After you match with someone, look at their profile. If they're wearing button-up shirts in all their photos and the most personal thing on their profile is that they're in marketing, this is probably not a person who's going to respond well (or at all) to hard-hitting sexting.
If, however, you see something like "lady in the streets, freak in the sheets" or any other overtly sexual reference in the profile, that means this person is looking to get dirty fast.
This person is the target audience for your sexting. Don't waste your time with people whose goals don't align with yours (and aren't you glad you established your goals in Step 1?).
Even if you've found the perfect profile of someone who's ready to get sexting, you don't need to go from zero to sixty in 2.8.
A dick pic right out of the gate is likely to get you unmatched without a word, no matter how horny the person on the other end is.
Penises are great, but no one likes to be surprised by them. Unsolicited dicks are unpleasant at best and illegal in some jurisdictions at worst.
Instead, even if you're confident this person is down to clown, start with the more mild end of the sexting spectrum: adult-themed text messages. This strategy gives you time to get chatting with the person so you can feel them out and get a sense of whether they want to see your nude form.
Plus, if you've misjudged the situation, it's easier to back down from an explicit text than an explicit photo.
A simple "u DTF" is going to get you nowhere. Do you think any girl that you match with isn't getting ten matches a day sending her the same unoriginal messages?
So, the question becomes: how are you going to stand out?
Humor is a great way to start. Cheesy pickup lines are cliche, but if you can put a new modern twist on them (read: make it more sexual than it needs to be), you might get enough of a chuckle to get your foot in the door.
For example, "Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?" is so old, it remembers when dinosaurs walked the earth.
But what if you try "Do you hook up with guys on the first date, or should we start planning the second?" It's cheeky without being grossly pushy, and it should catch her attention as a welcome change from the monotony of messages she's been receiving.
Self-deprecation is a great tool, too. Try an exchange like "Oh, I think you dropped something." [The girl asks "What?"] "Your standards. Hi, I'm ___."
It shows that you're humble and that you appreciate how great she is, which sets you apart from all the guys who see her as nothing but a piece of meat.
But don't take it too far--you don't want to make her second-guess her decision to swipe right!
Now that you've gotten her attention and started flirting, you may be tempted to jump into the good stuff as soon as you start meshing well on Tinder's chat.
But slow down. If you're still using the app to talk, you haven't gotten far enough to start sharing the real smut.
Hold off until you've reached a natural point in the conversation where you can ask, "Want to switch to texting?" or "So, have I earned your number yet?"
People feel more comfortable texting than chatting on an app, and you want to make sure she's as comfortable as can be before you start getting nasty.
Not to mention that waiting until you have some trust built up (at least enough trust to get her number) shows her that you're respectful of her boundaries, which is key. If she thinks you're a creep, she'll kick you to the curb faster than you can say "unmatch."
If you're not at a point where exchanging numbers feels natural, try asking for her Snapchat instead. It's still a step up in intimacy from Tinder, and she might feel more willing to show you pictures if she has the security of Snapchat protecting her.
